This is kind of tough, I am a critical person when it comes to my husband. I guess I nag a bit, but hey! At least I admit it. Guess I am more like my mom than I like to admit :o)
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
I messed up on the days - ya know how ya get so busy you just forget things. That is what I was trying to avoid, but it somehow still happened. I am going to try to start my Love Dare over again. When I get to day 4 without botching it up, I will post about it again.
Friday, March 26, 2010
Day two was ok, I wasn't feeling well and I didn't get much sleep the night before. I did bite my tongue on one incident though - a little nagging on doing something and instead of arguing, I asked if Lance could help me out with it and he did without saying anything about it.
As my unexpected act of kindness, I called him at work yesterday to tell him I was thinking about him and that I loved him :o)
Love is not selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor - Romans 12:10
Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today"
Well, shall it be beer or candy....
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Ok, maybe day one of "The Love Dare" was too easy. I only saw Lance for 2 hours yesterday. I did get a little perturbed when I went in the basement and he was giving chips to Aiden right before dinner, but I pointed it out very nicely that it was not a good thing to do so Aiden would eat. Aiden chowed his dinner, so all was well.
Love is Kind
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. - Ephesians 4:32
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
It's been an extremely long time since I've posted. I've been so busy, but I need to make the time for a new journey I'm taking to better my relationship with my husband. We're doing ok, don't get me wrong, but I really want to better things between us, we have gotten lost in the day to day grind and focus all our energy on our son, Aiden who we adore.
Have you seen the movie Fireproof? A friend of mine gave it to me to borrow and some of it really hit home. It is about a married couple getting lost in the day to day grind and they take each other for granted. Their marriage starts to really fall apart to where the wife wants a divorce. The man's father tells his son about the Love Dare book to give him 40 days to really try and make his marriage work - Lance and I are not thinking of divorce, we get along really well, but I want us to really appreciate each other and our marriage and not take each other or our days here for granted.
Well, a year has passed and I was at Border's and I came across that book "The Love Dare", in fact, it jumped off the shelf at me. Things are never coincidental! This is based off of the movie Fireproof. It's a 40 day challenge that gives you a different "Dare" every day to improve your marriage/relationship.
Love is Patient:
Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing with one another in love - Ephesians 4:2
"For day one, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret"
It then gives you a page to fill in notes about what happened that day to cause anger, etc, etc.
I'll keep you posted each day!